No woman should have to die for denying a man

Michael Arceneaux
4 min readJan 24, 2023

The shooting death of Jamea Jonae Harris speaks to the issue with giving male ego easy access to guns.

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On his perp walk, Darius Miles reportedly appeared to be crying while telling someone standing outside the Tuscaloosa County Jail, “I love you,’’ and “I love you more than you can imagine.”

One presumes those tears were rooted in the realization that his life as he knew it was over after being arrested for allegedly gunning down Jamea Jonae Harris, a 23-year-old mother of one.

The reason? According to Harris’ mom, DeCarla Heard, all because she had brushed him off.

Heard wrote on Facebook,“Took my baby’s life because she wouldn’t talk to him,” in a post featuring a photo of her late daughter and her 5-year-old son, Kaine.

“It appears at this time that the shooting was the result of a minor argument that occurred between the victims and suspects after they encountered each other along The Strip,’’ Tuscaloosa police Captain Jack Kennedy explained to reporters.

Recently released court documents feature Heard describing a scene in which the shooting happened after Harris and her boyfriend went to a club with other friends and then stopped on the way home to eat food with her cousin.

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…as they were sitting in their car waiting for their food, one of the suspects approached the car and was trying to talk to Harris.

“She (the cousin) said they were dancing around the car trying to get their attention,’’ Heard said. “They were like, ‘We got a boyfriend, we don’t want to talk.’’’

“They kept going on and on and eventually her boyfriend in the back seat rolled down the window,’’ Heard said. “He was like, ‘She already told you she got a boyfriend, you need to leave.’’’

One of the suspects repeatedly said, “You don’t know who I am, you don’t know what I do, I smack people.”

“I’m not for sure which one was saying what,’’ Heard said. “The guy kept saying, ‘I smack people, you don’t know who I am.’

Eventually, guns were pulled out resulting in Miles, a University of Alabama basketball player, 21, along with Michael Lynn Davis, 20…



Michael Arceneaux

New York Times bestselling author of “I Can’t Date Jesus” and “I Don’t Want To Die Poor.”